Man I'm on a roll today just finding these interesting articles. This one is about
the cost of raising children. It was interesting to read the reader comments. I was not surprised by the comments at all. Everyone who has kids and commented said it was worth it. Of course they are going to say that. Everyone who doesn't have kids are glad that they don't. Again, of course. Everyone makes their decision whether that be kids, or anything else in life and then tries to justify it if someone else challenges them. It's not a novel concept. Generally, people make decisions based on what they feel is the best for themselves or what is in their best interest. I'm pretty sure that this is a philosophical principle that has already existed for ages. When people say that volunteering breaks this philosophy I would argue well maybe not really. Say for example that I volunteer my Saturday afternoon mentoring "at risk" children. By doing this I keep them "off the street". How do I benefit? Well the kids are being kept occupied so that they are not using their time to do something else that might be detrimental to society. If for example I am helping tutor them they might become a doctor one day and save my life. Who knows. If I am helping them stay in shape then maybe they won't be overweight and will help keep health care costs low. I am benefiting really just maybe not immediately.
I think both sides have valid arguments. People who have kids argued that doing so helps them live fulfilling lives. The parents then are benefiting. People who choose not to argue that they have more free time and money. They are also benefiting from their decision. Looking at it from your own perspective, sure you think you've made the right choice. For you. That's it. It's the right choice for you, and what people need to stop doing, whether it be having kids, choosing a religion, anything really, is to stop telling other people that their decision was wrong.